Friends

WOW! so with quite a few of my last blog's they haven't been quite that inspiring or uplifting and I am very sorry for that, my blog's are just a conscious stream of thought about what is worrying me, making me happy etc. Today's blog (as you can clearly guess by the title) is about Friends. Lately I have been lucky enough to make quite a few new friends, just by striking up a completely random conversation and smiling and being friendly because the truth is nobody in this world wants to be alone no matter how much they try and say so, they don't. Anyone providing they are not in a hurry or doing anything in particular will be happy to strike up a conversation about anything and everything, and if you are looking for a relationship you might just be able to use one of those famous pick up lines you have swarming around in your head ;). Some people just don't get the fact that i have just stated, they think that people will think they are weird and judge them straight away when they are honestly very good people, so even though part of this is true and first impressions do last it's not that bad! I have a friend who is like this; she constantly thinks she has no friends, even when she has so many she just doesn't care to notice, she thinks that people will think she is weird if she asks for their number when she has known them for a whole term and has been sitting and conversing with them daily! I have told her to just ask because the worst thing they can say is 'no' and then they will soon forget about it anyway! She just can't bring herself to do it, which is such a shame because anybody would be really lucky to have her as a friend because she is pretty, smart and so trustworthy! To all you people out there like this I encourage you to take a deep breath and go for it! Just start up a conversation, talk that guy/girl you have always wanted to, ask for a number and just go out and live life to the fullest! Because after all;

"Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith"
-Margaret Shepherd

Maddy x

Death

Nobody like's it, no body wants it, many are scared of it. I am one of those people who are scared of it, although read my first blog and you will see i am slowly getting over that. It seems though that unless you are scared of it you never really think about it until it comes knocking at your life's door. You might see the occasional person in a hospital looking really ill, then get told that they were to absquatulate soon but you never really care profusely until a family member, close friend or pet dies.

I get that it is one of those things that happen to the young and old, poor and rich, famous and beggers. But I don't get why. Why does life have to be so unfair to take the ones you love away from you, to take something you loved with all your heart and then just destroy them? Occasionally making them suffer and try and fight with the pain until their heart gives out and they are left at their final resting place with only memories of the pain that they endured and the way everyone will remember them being a sick and sad valetudinarian.

I would like to just say now that this is something that has become close to my heart recently. I do not wish death on anyone especially the people I love, afterall, everybody is someones brother, sister, daughter, son, uncle, aunt, mother father. I do wish that if i could do just one thing before they died, i would grant them their one wish in the world and pause time just so i could do this, then tell them how much i loved them, but of course isn't this what every one wants to do for a loved one?

Kind Words

I figured I am always going on about how i would like the world to be a better place and how every one should act in order to achieve this so i should just re-enforce that view with a quote then maybe I may be rid of it from my system. The quote is:

"Kind words do not cost much but they accomplish much".

Well this is completely true apart from the first half that states that kind words do not cost much. -They cost nothing at all! and who knows you might just gain something. I know at work I have to use manners and be nice to all the customers otherwise my boss will fire me, but I do it anyway because it makes me feel better not being rude.

Tonight at my basketball on one of the other courts (not my game) a girl got a tech foul for swearing at the umpire, why swear? It shows a lack of vocabulary and poor use of language, not only that half the time it is used out of it's context. I know different people will have different views on this and i acknowledge and accept that but honestly?, Do you like when people swear at you and say mean words to you? I know I don't, it brings ones self-esteem down and makes people self-conscious about everything they do. How would you feel if you said something mean and derogatory to someone then the next day you found out they committed suicide? It could have been because of what you said and now you have potentially just killed some innocent person who is someones brother/sister/mother/father/daughter/son/cousin/aunt/uncle/only friend.

All I ask is stop with the nasty words, I sound like a Nanny here but, don't say something if you haven't got something nice to say. Whats the point of it, there isn't one. While you may not be like me and being nice may not make you feel better, it will make you look better, you will have strong will power and appear smarter.             -Be nice!-

                                                                                                   Maddy x

Photo's

Photo's. The one thing that can hold a memory and 1000+ words in the one 6x4 frame (sometimes bigger..). When you flip through photo's it brings back memories of a time in your life when you were happy, sad, excited, tired, childish, stupid, smart, hippy and so much more. You see a photo and think what you were doing at that time, what was happening, who were you with, what was being said, then you start to think deeper and start thinking about maybe the relationships you have had and possibly still have with those in the picture, the job you had and every other thing starts to flood back unless it is something so bad you have pushed it back to the back of your mind, a time you have forgotten, a time that doesn't represent any part of who you are now.

I think photo's are the one thing that people can hide behind, they can smile and act like they are happy because the picture doesn't show the cuts they have on their wrist, they can look like they don't know somebody is taking the picture of them but really be thinking that as soon as the picture is taken they are going to wrestle the photographer to the ground. But in saying that, can someone really hide? I mean, if you went for a job interview to be a police officer when you were 40 and the person holding the interview had done some digging and found a photo of when you got convicted for murdering a man, you can't hide then, every thing from your past would come right back and shove you in the back.

It's memories. The only reason photo's are still present in the 21st society is because people can let go of their past, their history, the things they did when they were young, how they looked when they were 18, how skinny/fat they were and how they wish they were still at that point in their life, or it could be a constant reminder of our family, friends and the fact that people make mistakes - and nobody ever wants to go back to some mistakes. I know that if i got my way i wouldn't be where i am, i would be in quite a few of my pictures living the life i love with the ones i love. But life can't be perfect so we will just have to live with that, won't we.

                                                                                                         Maddy x